Shallow Perception: The Public Eye

Societal standards are quite controlling. People are spoon fed by what normal, acceptable, and popular should be like. Everyday and everywhere, people are caught in a contagion of shallow perception. 

One against others. Keeping an open eye.
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In magazines, TV, and other sorts of media, beauty is artificial. Many women are made to believe that to be beautiful, you need to comply with what society accepts. Instead of women empowerment and positive encouragement, they deteriorate with the rest of society, low self-esteem, discontented, and some, with eating disorders on the side. 

Look at the models and celebrities, they seem too perfect. People often disregard the truth that it is the celebrity's job to look desirable and to be envied by. The same with media, it encourages people to buy products that will make people think it's the only way for them to look and feel good. 

How many commercials do you see that portray women as sex objects and physically perfect? Most women are lost on how to treat themselves. They feel the need to be like or almost close to the women they see on TV.

If a woman chases her dream to be beautiful, by means of surgery or lifestyle change, she is criticized either way. People bash whom they think are part of a "minority" and envy people who are on top. Either way, people still bash them altogether. And either way, women are left confused and unhappy of who they are.

People often forget that everything is temporary. Beauty and riches will eventually fade or disappear. But happiness and values are important. It brings contentment and a good life.

Most people go with what society dictates. A lot of people are usually afraid of being a nonconformist because they might end up unacceptable and deviant in the eyes of others. A friend once asked me, "is it right to believe what the majority says?", and I answered no.

You do have the choice to follow the lead of the majority or base your decisions on what you think is right.  Why not try to verify facts and seek the truth. It's never wrong to keep an open mind. 

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A Take On Relationships

Love seems so magical when it first touches the heart and soul.  Everything seems to be good. But when will you know if love is true and worthwhile?   

In the beginning of the relationship, it's full of hope and magical love.  It feels good to be stared at, you feel wanted and important.  It feels good to be touched, the warm sensation from skin to skin.  The kiss and sex is new and powerful, you can't get enough of it, it takes you to its highs and you just don't want it to end.  A shared moment that'll make you think that there is far better things in this world and that's being with the one you love who loves you back.  

Long term relationships are like trees, you take care of it and let it grow.  It takes time to grow.  But relationships grow above what is physical, selfish, and even emotional.  

The promise of love.
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When love reaches it's maturity, the flaws become clear, like everything is new again.  If I'm not mistaken, every one who has loved someone came to ask, if love is powerful, then why do I have to see the ugly side of it? Is it just a test? Or will it be a forever burden to understand another person of faults and flaws? 

Some would run away.  Some couldn't take the thought that just like them, their partners are just as imperfect as they are.  Some are too caught up with the thought that the dream girl/boy is still out there, waiting to be found.  Some end up changing relationships if they find it a burden.

The ugly truth about love, it isn't made of magic alone.  It's not a tool for perfection, and it won't fix every mistake or "defect".  And what's uglier about love, when it stands alone, it won't make relationships last. 

What makes a relationship worthwhile?  How will it survive?  Choice and friendship.  

Relationships are made of choices.  If you choose to love, understand, and accept the person you're with despite the flaws, it's going to take a whole lot of sacrifices but it's going to last.  Also, it isn't a one way street, it's a mutual commitment.

When you are best friends with your partner, it makes the whole relationship easier.  Communication is natural and understanding your partner is less complicated.  You don't have to go running to another person just to be with a friend.  When an argument strikes, the couple can listen and accept each other better.  

We rarely hear people say I'm committed, mostly they'll say I'm in a relationship.  Is it just a word? Are they interchangeable?  Maybe, maybe not.  The question is, are you committed? 

Commitment is just like any other choice, but it involves action.  It's not merely saying I'm committed, but how you do in a relationship.  Commitment involves a great deal of dedication, to be loyal, honest, understanding, patient, and loving.   

The magic goes away when reality slaps you with problems and challenges.  You get busy, priorities change, and personal growth is constant.  It's the same with your partner.  They experience just the same but they are different than you.  If you both choose to be committed, then maybe, just maybe, he or she is the one. 

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New Home

Welcome to my new home.

Everything is pretty plain for now. I'm planning to do some "redecorating" for the layout. Not quite sure if I'm still familiar with the how-to's and set-ups, so I think I have to relearn a bit. I haven't figured out yet what I'm going to do, but maybe it'll be a mix bag as of the moment, from emotional pour outs to reviews.

I think I need to get back to blogging. It has always been therapeutic. It's quite tempting to pour out certain details about my ever emotional self, but I guess I have to do some controlling. I don't want my blog to get too personal. It just makes me vulnerable. Sometimes, I'd like to do things anonymously, but it wouldn't be quite fair to the persons involved (disclosed or not) so I'll just keep everything to myself instead.

I'll be taking baby steps from now on, start with some reviews maybe, or current events opinion. I just want to get back to blogging, and it's good to be back.

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