A Take On Relationships

Love seems so magical when it first touches the heart and soul.  Everything seems to be good. But when will you know if love is true and worthwhile?   

In the beginning of the relationship, it's full of hope and magical love.  It feels good to be stared at, you feel wanted and important.  It feels good to be touched, the warm sensation from skin to skin.  The kiss and sex is new and powerful, you can't get enough of it, it takes you to its highs and you just don't want it to end.  A shared moment that'll make you think that there is far better things in this world and that's being with the one you love who loves you back.  

Long term relationships are like trees, you take care of it and let it grow.  It takes time to grow.  But relationships grow above what is physical, selfish, and even emotional.  

The promise of love.
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When love reaches it's maturity, the flaws become clear, like everything is new again.  If I'm not mistaken, every one who has loved someone came to ask, if love is powerful, then why do I have to see the ugly side of it? Is it just a test? Or will it be a forever burden to understand another person of faults and flaws? 

Some would run away.  Some couldn't take the thought that just like them, their partners are just as imperfect as they are.  Some are too caught up with the thought that the dream girl/boy is still out there, waiting to be found.  Some end up changing relationships if they find it a burden.

The ugly truth about love, it isn't made of magic alone.  It's not a tool for perfection, and it won't fix every mistake or "defect".  And what's uglier about love, when it stands alone, it won't make relationships last. 

What makes a relationship worthwhile?  How will it survive?  Choice and friendship.  

Relationships are made of choices.  If you choose to love, understand, and accept the person you're with despite the flaws, it's going to take a whole lot of sacrifices but it's going to last.  Also, it isn't a one way street, it's a mutual commitment.

When you are best friends with your partner, it makes the whole relationship easier.  Communication is natural and understanding your partner is less complicated.  You don't have to go running to another person just to be with a friend.  When an argument strikes, the couple can listen and accept each other better.  

We rarely hear people say I'm committed, mostly they'll say I'm in a relationship.  Is it just a word? Are they interchangeable?  Maybe, maybe not.  The question is, are you committed? 

Commitment is just like any other choice, but it involves action.  It's not merely saying I'm committed, but how you do in a relationship.  Commitment involves a great deal of dedication, to be loyal, honest, understanding, patient, and loving.   

The magic goes away when reality slaps you with problems and challenges.  You get busy, priorities change, and personal growth is constant.  It's the same with your partner.  They experience just the same but they are different than you.  If you both choose to be committed, then maybe, just maybe, he or she is the one.